Far too many of us give up on our goals and our dreams too quickly. We start something with a lot of momentum but as soon as it gets a little tough, you give up. The reason you don’t have the life you want, the reason you don’t have the wealth you want to accumulate, the reason you don’t have the relationships you want to have, the reason you don’t have the body you desire, might be because you’re weak. You have the erroneous idea that it’s supposed to be easy and this couldn’t be further from the truth. Nothing in life worth having will come easy. So in order to have whatever it is you desire in life, you have to know your why. Nietzsche said, “If you know your why for living, you can endure almost any how.”
Some of you may know this story but on February 11, 1990 there was a fight between Mike Tyson and Buster Douglas. It was predicted that Mike Tyson would absolutely pulverize Buster Douglas. When the fight came around, a funny thing happened. Douglas got knocked out; nobody ever got knocked out by Mike Tyson and ever got back up. The countdown started, 10… 9… 8… He was stumbling trying to get back up and just before the bell sounded, he stood up. He made it to his corner and the whole world was watching thinking that Tyson would just hammer when they came back out. And exactly that, Tyson came out and was like, “I got em’! I got this kid up against the ropes!” Some of you today, life’s got you up against the ropes but you can’t give up, you can’t give in. So if life’s got you backed up, I need you to do what Buster did; he started fighting back. The world was shocked. Douglas had knocked Goliath out. After the fight, the press went up to Buster and they asked him, “What happened?” He said, “It’s really simple, before my mother died she told the whole world that I was going to beat Mike Tyson and two days before the fight my mother died.” Buster Douglas had a decision to make. He could die with his mother or he could wake up and live for his mom. He knocked Mike Tyson out simply because his why was greater than that punch, his why was greater than the defeat, his why was greater than his trials and his tribulations and I’m telling you today that if you don’t know what your why is and your why isn’t strong, you’re going to get knocked down every single day.
I know what it’s like to get knocked down. I have had plenty of people not believe in me and tell me to give up. I know what it’s like, so don’t think for one second your situation is any different. You may have more extreme challenges but the principles are still the same. You are more powerful than you think you are. Remember that. I faced a very difficult challenge over a year ago. Someone I cared a lot about became very toxic and negative toward the end of the relationship. They told me that I was being to cocky and arrogant. However, I had been building up my self-esteem for quite some time. I had a low self-image prior to this relationship and I never wanted to go back to that. Eventually the relationship ended and this person never spoke to me again. I was crushed. I began questioning myself and wondering if I was being to cocky. I asked God to take it away from me if I was. I soon realized that this person hadn’t learned to love their self like I had. How can a person care for another if they don’t care about their self? I knew my purpose, my why for living and this person couldn’t see it. Over the course of a few weeks after this incident, I had a huge struggle with my belief in myself and my dreams. This was a huge blow to my confidence that I had worked so hard to build. However, something was triggered that forced me to get up at 4:30 every morning before school to workout and read. (I still do this to this day.) I put my head down and went to work. I was grinding every single day like a mad man. I had a breakthrough soon after this habit took place, and I was asked to be on TV to promote my speaking. I like the quote by Frank Sinatra who said, “The best revenge is massive success.”
I had that breakthrough because I never stopped believing in my dream. It was one of the hardest things I had gone through, but I survived and you too can survive what you’re going through or what you will go through. This person’s actions hurt deeply and I could have easily let it paralyze me if it were not for what my dad said to me which was, “It’s time to put everything you’ve learned from all the speakers you’ve listened to and the books you’ve read, and put it into action.” This woke me up and made me realize that I am not a victim, I am a victor and so are you. I didn’t allow this to keep me from pursuing my dream. If I had, I wouldn’t have had the idea to start this blog or to keep speaking. Hundreds of people would have missed out on my message all because I believed the opinion of a person who treated me like they treat their self.
With the help of my dad and me knowing my purpose, I was able to endure this hardship just like Buster Douglas was able to defeat Mike Tyson. I don’t know what you’re going through right now but I do know this: you have something special, you have greatness within you, you can do more than you can ever begin to imagine. I’ll leave you with what Les Brown said, “You may have faced a rejection or a no, or you had a meeting and no one showed up, or someone said, “You can count on me!” and they didn’t come through. The car was repossessed, nobody believes in you, you’ve lost again and again and again, the lights are caught off, but you’re still looking at your dream, reviewing it everyday and saying to yourself, “It’s not over until I win!”
You are blessed and highly favored!